While You Were Out:An Intimate Portrait of Mental Illness in an Era of Silence

From award-winning journalist Meg Kissinger, a searing memoir of a family besieged by mental illness, as well as an incisive exploration of the systems that failed them and a testament to the love that sustained them.

Growing up in the 1960s in the suburbs of Chicago, Meg Kissinger’s family seemed to live a charmed life. With eight kids and two loving parents, the Kissingers radiated a warm, boisterous energy. Whether they were spending summer days on the shores of Lake Michigan, barreling down the ski slopes, or navigating the trials of their Catholic school, the Kissingers always knew how to live large and play hard.

But behind closed doors, a harsher reality was unfolding. A heavily medicated mother hospitalized for anxiety and depression, a manic father prone to violence, and children in the throes of bipolar disorder and depression, two of whom would take their own lives. Through it all, the Kissingers faced the world with their signature dark humor and the unspoken family rule–never talk about it.

While You Were Out begins as the personal story of one family’s struggles, then opens outward as Kissinger details how childhood tragedy catalyzed a journalism career focused on exposing our country’s flawed mental health care. Combining the intimacy of memoir with the rigor of investigative reporting, the book explores the consequences of shame, the havoc of botched public policy, and the hope offered by new treatment strategies. Written with tenderness and surprising humor, this is a story of one family’s love and devotion in the face of relentless struggle. It is a book for anyone who cares about someone with mental illness. In other words, it is a book for everyone.  Publisher: Celadon Books >>

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Praise for “While You Were Out”

  • New York Times Editors’ Choice

  • Los Angeles Times September Book Pick

  • Indie Next Book selection

  • Outstanding Work of Literature Award – Community Read

  • Amazon Editors’ Choice

  • Goodreads Best Books

  • Next Big Idea Selection

  • Earphones Award Winner: AudioFile Magazine

  • Chicago Library Best of the Best

  • “The raw intimacy of her prose exemplifies the empathy our society so desperately needs.” –
    The New York Times

  • “A startling, important book.” – Los Angeles Times

  • “Electric." — LA Review of Books 

  • “Spellbinding,”–Book Page Starred review

  • “Stellar, extraordinarily affecting,” Lit Hub, Starred Review

  • “A searing debut” – Publishers Weekly, Starred Review